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Pretty Little Liars- Not Just An After School Special
Usually I watch Pretty Little Liars with my friends and enjoy it for the camp and craziness it is. Tonight, though- was different. As someone who works at a University and sometimes works with sexual assault victims, this episode showed something about American and Rape Culture that is so prevalent- blaming the victim.
We have been watching Hanna Marin spiral downward- drinking, hanging out with Caleb and drinking, stealing Pam Field’s vodka to drink, and yes, more drinking.  
Tonight, amid all that drinking and spiraling, an adult man who she should have been able to trust decided to violate that trust.  Zach, engaged to Ella (Aria’s mom) not only hit on her, but touched her leg in an in appropriate manner, generally made her feel uncomfortable, and gave her his telephone number. And no, I’m pretty sure he didn’t give her his number so they could play a rousing game of Scrabble.  
So, Hanna did what we tell anyone who has that happen to do- she told someone.   Unfortunately, it didn’t turn out as it should.  She went to Aria, and Aria said the one thing you should never say to a victim- “What did you do?”  
Aria turned it around and put the blame on Hanna- asking if she had been drinking, telling her it was “just like her.”  Instead of supporting Hanna, and realizing that an older man was targeting her, she made Hanna doubt herself and start to blame herself.
I would like to say this is unusual, that it was written like that for drama, but it’s not. This is something that happens every day in America. It doesn’t matter how much someone drinks, no one has the right to touch them without consent. I will repeat it as many times as necessary- consent matters. It’s unclear how old exactly Hanna is, but she’s still in high school, and Zach is marrying her friend’s MOM.  This show has always been problematic when it comes to adult men and the Liars (Ian, Wren, Garrett, Ezra) but this was uncomfortable to watch. And maybe it was supposed to be. I know that my friends and I all started yelling at the TV when Zach got handsy. My friends also all work at the university, so (like the good lesbians we are) we processed how Aria’s reaction to Hanna was all too common.  
I hope the show brings the hammer down on Zach, because Hanna deserves better. The women and men who watch this show who might someday be a victim deserve better. I know that it will never be rainbows and puppies and kittens, but this topic deserves the good PLL treatment. PLL has handled some sensitive storylines perfectly- such as Emily’s coming out. Maybe they can do the same and show all the people watching that Hanna can go from Victim to Survivor, and there is always hope.  
Because there is always hope.

^^^^awesome. However, please don’t forget how terrible Spencer and Emily were about this too. They both assumed she was mistaken and allude to her drinking. Like…literally NONE of the liars had the proper response. I really hope the writers are going to address how terrible they all were here and point out exactly why.

Good point- I did forget to mention that part. I was trying to figure out if they didn’t believe Hanna because she was drunk or if they were truly tying to figure out what happened and thought because she was drunk she didn’t remember properly.  Either way, they should have trusted her and believed her story. I highlighted Aria because that is the typical reaction of most friends/admins/police when someone reports things like that.  

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fanaticalqueergeek:

Pretty Little Liars- Not Just An After School Special

Usually I watch Pretty Little Liars with my friends and enjoy it for the camp and craziness it is. Tonight, though- was different. As someone who works at a University and sometimes works with sexual assault victims, this episode showed something about American and Rape Culture that is so prevalent- blaming the victim.

We have been watching Hanna Marin spiral downward- drinking, hanging out with Caleb and drinking, stealing Pam Field’s vodka to drink, and yes, more drinking.  

Tonight, amid all that drinking and spiraling, an adult man who she should have been able to trust decided to violate that trust.  Zach, engaged to Ella (Aria’s mom) not only hit on her, but touched her leg in an in appropriate manner, generally made her feel uncomfortable, and gave her his telephone number. And no, I’m pretty sure he didn’t give her his number so they could play a rousing game of Scrabble.  

So, Hanna did what we tell anyone who has that happen to do- she told someone.   Unfortunately, it didn’t turn out as it should.  She went to Aria, and Aria said the one thing you should never say to a victim- “What did you do?”  

Aria turned it around and put the blame on Hanna- asking if she had been drinking, telling her it was “just like her.”  Instead of supporting Hanna, and realizing that an older man was targeting her, she made Hanna doubt herself and start to blame herself.

I would like to say this is unusual, that it was written like that for drama, but it’s not. This is something that happens every day in America. It doesn’t matter how much someone drinks, no one has the right to touch them without consent. I will repeat it as many times as necessary- consent matters. It’s unclear how old exactly Hanna is, but she’s still in high school, and Zach is marrying her friend’s MOM.  This show has always been problematic when it comes to adult men and the Liars (Ian, Wren, Garrett, Ezra) but this was uncomfortable to watch. And maybe it was supposed to be. I know that my friends and I all started yelling at the TV when Zach got handsy. My friends also all work at the university, so (like the good lesbians we are) we processed how Aria’s reaction to Hanna was all too common.  

I hope the show brings the hammer down on Zach, because Hanna deserves better. The women and men who watch this show who might someday be a victim deserve better. I know that it will never be rainbows and puppies and kittens, but this topic deserves the good PLL treatment. PLL has handled some sensitive storylines perfectly- such as Emily’s coming out. Maybe they can do the same and show all the people watching that Hanna can go from Victim to Survivor, and there is always hope.  

Because there is always hope.

^^^^awesome. However, please don’t forget how terrible Spencer and Emily were about this too. They both assumed she was mistaken and allude to her drinking. Like…literally NONE of the liars had the proper response. I really hope the writers are going to address how terrible they all were here and point out exactly why.

Good point- I did forget to mention that part. I was trying to figure out if they didn’t believe Hanna because she was drunk or if they were truly tying to figure out what happened and thought because she was drunk she didn’t remember properly.  Either way, they should have trusted her and believed her story. I highlighted Aria because that is the typical reaction of most friends/admins/police when someone reports things like that.  

Pretty Little Liars- Not Just An After School Special
Usually I watch Pretty Little Liars with my friends and enjoy it for the camp and craziness it is. Tonight, though- was different. As someone who works at a University and sometimes works with sexual assault victims, this episode showed something about American and Rape Culture that is so prevalent- blaming the victim.
We have been watching Hanna Marin spiral downward- drinking, hanging out with Caleb and drinking, stealing Pam Field’s vodka to drink, and yes, more drinking.  
Tonight, amid all that drinking and spiraling, an adult man who she should have been able to trust decided to violate that trust.  Zach, engaged to Ella (Aria’s mom) not only hit on her, but touched her leg in an in appropriate manner, generally made her feel uncomfortable, and gave her his telephone number. And no, I’m pretty sure he didn’t give her his number so they could play a rousing game of Scrabble.  
So, Hanna did what we tell anyone who has that happen to do- she told someone.   Unfortunately, it didn’t turn out as it should.  She went to Aria, and Aria said the one thing you should never say to a victim- “What did you do?”  
Aria turned it around and put the blame on Hanna- asking if she had been drinking, telling her it was “just like her.”  Instead of supporting Hanna, and realizing that an older man was targeting her, she made Hanna doubt herself and start to blame herself.
I would like to say this is unusual, that it was written like that for drama, but it’s not. This is something that happens every day in America. It doesn’t matter how much someone drinks, no one has the right to touch them without consent. I will repeat it as many times as necessary- consent matters. It’s unclear how old exactly Hanna is, but she’s still in high school, and Zach is marrying her friend’s MOM.  This show has always been problematic when it comes to adult men and the Liars (Ian, Wren, Garrett, Ezra) but this was uncomfortable to watch. And maybe it was supposed to be. I know that my friends and I all started yelling at the TV when Zach got handsy. My friends also all work at the university, so (like the good lesbians we are) we processed how Aria’s reaction to Hanna was all too common.  
I hope the show brings the hammer down on Zach, because Hanna deserves better. The women and men who watch this show who might someday be a victim deserve better. I know that it will never be rainbows and puppies and kittens, but this topic deserves the good PLL treatment. PLL has handled some sensitive storylines perfectly- such as Emily’s coming out. Maybe they can do the same and show all the people watching that Hanna can go from Victim to Survivor, and there is always hope.  
Because there is always hope.

Pretty Little Liars- Not Just An After School Special

Usually I watch Pretty Little Liars with my friends and enjoy it for the camp and craziness it is. Tonight, though- was different. As someone who works at a University and sometimes works with sexual assault victims, this episode showed something about American and Rape Culture that is so prevalent- blaming the victim.

We have been watching Hanna Marin spiral downward- drinking, hanging out with Caleb and drinking, stealing Pam Field’s vodka to drink, and yes, more drinking.  

Tonight, amid all that drinking and spiraling, an adult man who she should have been able to trust decided to violate that trust.  Zach, engaged to Ella (Aria’s mom) not only hit on her, but touched her leg in an in appropriate manner, generally made her feel uncomfortable, and gave her his telephone number. And no, I’m pretty sure he didn’t give her his number so they could play a rousing game of Scrabble.  

So, Hanna did what we tell anyone who has that happen to do- she told someone.   Unfortunately, it didn’t turn out as it should.  She went to Aria, and Aria said the one thing you should never say to a victim- “What did you do?”  

Aria turned it around and put the blame on Hanna- asking if she had been drinking, telling her it was “just like her.”  Instead of supporting Hanna, and realizing that an older man was targeting her, she made Hanna doubt herself and start to blame herself.

I would like to say this is unusual, that it was written like that for drama, but it’s not. This is something that happens every day in America. It doesn’t matter how much someone drinks, no one has the right to touch them without consent. I will repeat it as many times as necessary- consent matters. It’s unclear how old exactly Hanna is, but she’s still in high school, and Zach is marrying her friend’s MOM.  This show has always been problematic when it comes to adult men and the Liars (Ian, Wren, Garrett, Ezra) but this was uncomfortable to watch. And maybe it was supposed to be. I know that my friends and I all started yelling at the TV when Zach got handsy. My friends also all work at the university, so (like the good lesbians we are) we processed how Aria’s reaction to Hanna was all too common.  

I hope the show brings the hammer down on Zach, because Hanna deserves better. The women and men who watch this show who might someday be a victim deserve better. I know that it will never be rainbows and puppies and kittens, but this topic deserves the good PLL treatment. PLL has handled some sensitive storylines perfectly- such as Emily’s coming out. Maybe they can do the same and show all the people watching that Hanna can go from Victim to Survivor, and there is always hope.  

Because there is always hope.

booklandreeve:

ffs aphrodite, you ruiner

Yeah, totally not gay. *cough*

unwinona:

urulokid:

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urulokid:

jellybaby74:

urulokid:

zionicbond:

urulokid:

chibitamichan:

urulokid:

Yeah I’m totally elsa kids come on over

I can’t breathe, this is so friggin cute

Like you don’t understand okay I was trapped for an hour on the second floor of the con with hundreds of children and their parents because everyone thought I was Elsa

Am I the only one who thinks she looks like the khaleesi like The mother of dragons?

I was cosplaying dany I was mistaken for Elsa and wound up at a nine yr old girls birthday party this was the best day of my life

I thought she was Kalesi…

YES I WAS COSPLAYING KHALEESI

I WAS HOWEVER MISTAKEN ON AN ENORMOUS SCALE FOR ELSA OF ARENDELLE BY HUNDREDS OF SMALL CHILDREN AND THEIR MOTHERS

well you didnt have to use caps lock…

I AM DAENERYS STORMBORN, THE UNBURNT, OF THE HOUSE TARGARYEN, FIRST OF MY NAME; QUEEN OF MEEREEN; QUEEN OF THE ANDALS, THE RHYNAR, AND THE FIRST MEN; LADY REGNANT OF THE SEVEN KINGDOMS, PROTECTOR OF THE REALM, KHALEESI OF THE GREAT GRASS SEA, BREAKER OF CHAINS, AND MOTHER OF DRAGONS 

AND I WILL USE CAPS LOCK IF I SO PLEASE

LET IT GO

LET IT GOOOOOOO

but first let me tell you about skimmons
chloe bennet (at every panel/interview ever)
OUAT: We shall not utter the ship-that-must-not-be—
Chloe Bennet: HI EVERYONE I SHIP SKIMMONS. SKIMMONS EVERYWHERE.
OUAT: ...as we were saying no one mention that lesbian ship that makes us all so uncomf—
Chloe Bennet: AND YOU GET A SKIMMONS AND YOU GET A SKIMMONS AND EVERYONE SHIP SKIMMONS
OUAT: ...
OUAT: Maybe we're doing something wrong...
OUAT: NAH. Let's ignore the queers, they'll go away
Chloe Bennet: SKIMMOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONSSSSSSSSSSsssssssssss

moriarteacups:

all i did this year was get more gay

queensarrow:

Arrow Heroes

rakfocus:

The Hollywood Reporter Geek Photoshoot

Tricia Helfer and Zachary Levi in The Princess Bride

Chris Hardwick in Back to the Future

Tatiana Maslany in Shaun of the Dead

Gale Anne Hurd and Norman Reedus in Men in Black

Grace Park and Katee Sackhoff in Star Wars

Nathan Fillion in Star Trek

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seanizaakse:

Best pet ads evar!

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heatherannehogan:

thisfeliciaday:

This article is heartbreaking. And true.

There is a reason I throttled back on doing a lot of creative gaming content a few years ago. And why I still avoid taking some jobs in the gaming world when they’re offered to me. And why, when we have a female host on any of our Geek and Sundry gaming shows, we have to monitor the comments on YouTube extra, to remove the many comments that are offensive and pollute our community’s spirit of equality. Because I hate that shit. 

There is an endemic acceptance in the gamer world that “well, it comes with the territory” when a woman receives threats and harassment and the hateful anonymous internet dialogue is focused on her body and whether they would “do” her or not. I don’t know why this became okay. It’s a vocal minority that has been given way too much power over the industry dialogue, and I am so happy to see more and more articles like this shining the light on what reasonable gamer men and women have been conned into accepting as a given.

NOTHING is a given in this world. And frankly, it taints the art form we so love and keeps it back from becoming more respected and more diverse to not at least TRY to fight it. Gaming deserves more than complacency in this area.

Even posting this link will cause me to receive hateful Tumblr PMs. I can always tell when something I write gets linked on certain places on the internet (like 4 Chan or a few other forums of troll-hood), because I’ll immediately get dozens of hate mails along the veins of what is posted in this article. 

Well, I’m a lucky one to be prominent enough to have 10 supporters for every hater. I mostly feel sorry for girls and women who aren’t in my position, who may just give up on gaming when they’re too beaten down to fight anymore.

We have to change that. For the good of what we love doing, gamers! Okay, back to work :)

Another ten talking. 

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THIS IS ACCURATE IN SO MANY LEVELS.

i think taintedidealist and I can agree on this being SO ACCURATE.